A dear one told me excitedly how she admired a man who gave everything to his ex-wife: all his money, his car, everything. My stomach turns upside down hearing this. I realized that I had been living earlier partnerships in the belief that “Love is giving everything.” I was in a consciousness of lack and anxiety. In my mother’s womb, I had already learned that love was “to respond to someone with adrenalin, noradrenalin, cortisol and dopamine”—in short, the biochemical cocktail of drama. No wonder I…..
We as mankind stand in a dilemma today. We see the energy of conflict (consciousness of duality) as well as the energy of harmony (consciousness of unity) in the world. In our individual life we stand in this dilemma too. Our lower self believes we need pretty clothes, the newest gadgets, success, to relate with interesting people… Our shadows, as the neediness of our inner child, which can show up in unhealthy habits, are the expression of our lower self……
Where we want something from someone, we just want ourself. Where we pull something away from us, we just pull ourself away from us. We just project our own universe out there. Whenever we admire someone – e.g. the Dalai Lama – we would like to be important, wise, loving or whatever we see in the other person. The solution is to take the admired feature back to us and live it ourselves. Whenever we despise a person (who comes automatically…..
I keep leaving a world of people living in the shadow who are more committed to distraction than to growth. Even though I love them, I’m committed to discernment and am leaving them behind. I am leaving dear ones, over and over again. New belonging is an ongoing process—new belonging to new friends, letting go when it’s time, new belonging to new friends, letting go when it’s time … When I was younger, I used to close doors behind me. Now I have learned to walk through…..
Science has shown us that our DNA expands when we are thinking happy or healthy thoughts and contracts when we are thinking of fear, hate, anger, and illness. Our field is filled with these frequencies. Our field is influencing our environment’s field. They are in fact interwoven. The more loving and lighter frequencies are more contagious than the more fearful, denser frequencies. We all unceasingly create our reality. Our power is inside of us. If we allow ourselves more excitement…..
For my clan or origin values stay firm and unchangeable. If I enter into my greatness, I choose to leave my belonging to the clan. This tightness—I give it up. I give up the patriarchic security that allows no one to think, speak out, or even move, least of all women. I abandon these shoes that are far too small. Intently, over and over again, I make this decision that is the discernment point. It creates the development line of my life. Mourning for the…..
Shame Our Western communities are built on shaming the ones who free themselves of narrow codes of conduct (Dr. Mario Martinez, www.biocognitive.com, a clinical neuropsychologist who did research with centenarians worldwide). We all have been imprinted with shame as children. Feeling this shame and accepting myself caringly is so liberating. If I go into the darkest corner of my heart, into my own despair, without stopping in midstream, I become human. Deception Before mankind had written laws, a mutual sense…..
What does it look like to outsource and seek security and wellbeing outside of myself? Instead of focusing inward for my own security and well-being, I focus on my partner, my friends, my family, my boss, my neighbors, my town, my home, my status, my bank account, my clothes, my holidays, etc. If I do this, I am saying, “I don’t trust myself. I don’t honor myself. Therefore, I abandon myself and base myself on others who have to take care…..